You complain that friends are bad and so you don’t want to have friends. I complain that friends are bad and so, I’d rather do without them. But honestly, who are these bad friends that make us all want to do away with friendships if not us all?
Most of the time we are the bad friends we all complain about. All of us are guilty in one way or other. We’ve been a bad friend to somebody at one point or the other. So, if we are to start avoiding, cancelling or running away from everyone who has offended us at one point or the other, what do we do with ourselves?
I think it is easier to point out other people’s foibles than it is to accept that we are all flawed humans in different ways. So, when we expect perfection from one another, we ruin the beauty of friendships. Because we all have our good and bad sides and it is never realistic to think that we can experience people without their foibles.
So, rather than avoiding one another, rubbishing one another, exposing our weaknesses and publicizing our offences, hoping it would create the balance and stability we desire in our friendships and shield us from being hurt by “people”, let us hold one another with grace,poise and compassion instead.
It is only then that it becomes possible to lovingly hold one another accountable and help each other grow into our best selves!
Let’s be human together